Why Porn Is Political…And Totally Hot

I’m sure I wasn’t the only chubby-ish butch lesbian to get mercilessly tortured from elementary school until university.
But I’ve heard the best revenge is living well.

For me, part of that living well, was to prove to myself I wasn’t a gross loser that no one wanted to jump into bed with.
In that regard, porn and being of loose moral fibre have served me well *wink*

I highly recommend sleeping your way through the European Union. This was an effective method for me initially.

Also for the small town hicks that thought butch lesbians were ugly and no one would want to bone me, I can tell you there’s an excellent chance, boys I went to highschool with….I have now had more girls than you.

Feminist porn proves and repeats my point…it’s porn for the real world…those of us who aren’t part of the 1% traditionally porn-sexy people.

Most mass produced pornography is for exclusive male consumption, no question, but my God, when it isn’t, when there’s feminist porn with names like Jiz Lee and April Flores to name but 2 in a whole universe of hot gender queer porn, suddenly watching a porno or looking at image galleries gets hot for the rest of us.

And yes, I enjoy porn…and yes I proudly endorse it’s use in non-coercive ways to enhance the sex lives of the single or monogamous or whoever.

Consenting and respectful adults have more fun.

I zone out the rest of the world when I see real women being sexy and confident.

Sure, you say, it isn’t easy to not be a size 2 and still flaunt your ass-ets…

I disagree!

Yes Please! I will take a slice of April Flores a la mode any day!


I'm also a gigantic fan of the curvy lady.

If your ribs are showing, come back after a few goes with some carbs, we'll talk.

Just kidding, my wife would murder you.

Defiant, sexy and curvaceous girls…girls with body hair…gender queers having a good ol gender fuck can be super awesome.

For those of you who are not the faint of heart, check out Buck Angel, the man with the vagina…his porn is a moveable feast for the eyes.

Here's another hot pic for the road:

Happy screwing!


What Do You See?

What Do You See?

copyright Laura Aguilar

“Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos — the trees, the clouds, everything.”    

Thich Nhat Hanh

We women have had weight  issues shoved down our throats like fingers.

This is why I love Laura Aguilar’s photography. To the brainwashed viewer, perhaps this image looks grotesque or perhaps it’s like looking in a mirror.

Provocative used to mean, inspiring discussion not laying a young blond across a sports car to help a company make money.

I like this picture because it rarely inspires a neutral response.

 Sit with it, meditate on it for a while and search what meaning it holds for you.

I’m not here to tell you anything you don’t already know about the ‘facts’ of weight.

It can lay on your chest like a feeling of personal failure if you’ve battled with it all your life.

Some people don’t want to admit they think its sexy.

Fat is healthy or it can kill, like thin can, really when you think about it.

For me, fat was something people warned me about as a child. I was  called ‘cow’ or ‘moose’ or any other number of things. I’m no larger than a lot of women, bigger than some, smaller than others.

Some of those words I internalized and some I embraced and tried to remember, before I got married, I had a rich and wonderful dating life, social life and no one ever asked me to leave when I undressed in front of them.

My best revenge from my teenage tormentors is that I am living well. I hope you can live well too.

No one is more worthy of your love than you are.