New Haircut Day

So I got my hair cut yesterday which is always a nice occasion at our house.

My wife loves to rub my head where it’s shaved, usually the back of my head and the feel of her fingers on my scalp has the effect of a tranquilizer dart, my eyes droop and I swear I can hear myself snore.

Also nice is…the way she looks at me 🙂

like I’m a tasty butch happy meal…yay!

There’s that special you’re cute look she gives me when I’m freshly groomed that I don’t think she even realises she’s doing.

My hairstyle is a shorter version of this:

When her sister came in this afternoon, we were getting ready to go on a date.

The following conversation ensues:

Sister: “You two are always going on a date.”
Us: “We are, it’s fun.”
Sister: “Except it’s always with the same person.”
Monkiss: “Oh yes, that’s terrrrrrible,” I purred while wrapped my arms around my wife’s curves and giving her neck kisses…
“marriage is terrible” 😉
Sister: eeew, gross
Wife: *giggles*

The End 😀


I’m not taking it off

When you’re married, sometimes you do foolish sit-com like things without realising it.

My wife and I are the same clothing size, roughly, which is luckier for her than for me.
She likes my shirts but I’m not a huge fan of wearing dresses and skirts.

Today though, because she took yet another shirt of mine, and I didn’t want to go downstairs to our room, I decided ‘huh, I’m going to wear one of her t-shirts.’

Yes I was lazy on principle.

Her shirt is comfortable but it looks better on her and I hate the sleeves.

But because I’m stubborn, I’m not taking it off. Dammit.

Zen & The Art of Loving Your Spouse

Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship. -Buddha
Marriage is not easy and it’s not supposed to be. That doesn’t mean it’s drudgery either, it definitely isn’t in my experience.
I’m not intending to make great proclamations with this post, these are merely the observations of one person who has promised love, honour and loyalty to another person.
We’re closing in on our two year anniversary and our lives together get more interesting and exciting.
It’s also brought up many challenges.
Without violating my wife’s right to privacy too much, she has a chronic illness which takes its toll on her and sometimes me.
It is difficult trying to be the healer and the one in need of healing.  Sometimes it makes me angry that some things can’t just take a back seat until I am well enough to carry everything on my shoulders again. But that’s not the way life works.
My problems are not as debilitating as hers are, at least right now, she’s been in the throws of her relapse for over a year and we’re beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel. As I am getting stronger, so is she.
It’s a real blessing.
I cannot say I have been the best care giver to her all the time. I’ve been angry, resentful, short tempered, occasionally non supportive and hurtful. None of these are intentional of course but the damage remains the same.
What I’ve found is that it’s vital, if not mandatory, that as a caregiver, you take care of yourself.
With my wife’s love and support, I went out with friends, joined a support group and pursued my own interests. It was just what I needed.
It gives me the energy to return to her and hold her when she has a bad night and talk her through the worst of it.
When we have a rough patch, and there’s been a number of them over the past year, I always remind myself to tell her:
“My worst day with you sweetheart is still better than my best day single.”
Loving yourself gives you strength, loving someone else gives you courage.

Mutant Planet Could Cause A Divorce

My wife loves mutant planet on Discovery science channel.

I love it too. But not to the same extent. I also hate our PVR now, or Tivo or whatever you call it where you are. Why do I hate it?

Because every time I”m doing something in the livingroom, B says, Ciaran! Ciaran! Wait, you have to look at this. She pauses mutant planet, too far back, too far ahead then too far back again. Lookit that, the snake! the snail! How that monkey has crazy feet or this frog attacked a fish.

I love my wife, very much. Though sometimes, I just want to sit in the same room and play video games or write or check my social networking pages.

Damn you mutant planet!

She cries when cute animals get hurt and then I feel bad for saying ‘hey, leave me alone.’

Given, I only do that after the 9th time in an hour when she’s taped 3 or 4 episodes and watches them back to back in an evening.

I’m soft hearted that way.

So I say again, damn you technology for never letting me get a moment’s peace when mutant planet is on.

p.s we can’t watch mutant planet Australia anymore because *spoiler alert* a kangaroo died.

see what you did mutant planet? see what you did?