Watch Your Language

Hey folks,

I’m planning a new blog! I like monkiss as unfocussed as it is from day-to-day, with art, personal stories and soap box stuff, the next one is devoted to a nerdy love of mine:


I’m going to do a word a day with some photography to go with it…I think; photos from around my city.

Submit a blog title recommendation if you like. So far I’m using my wife’s feedback and we don’t seem to like each other’s suggestions – so far.


Full On

Leonard Nimoy photography

If you’ve read my ‘about’ section or at least one or two other blogs dear reader, then you know I’m a lesbian.

And damned proud of it.

Though it’s hardly the most interesting thing about me or the only thing I care about or that interests me.

However, it contributes to my admiration of the nude female form and it’s exquisite beauty. Women’s bodies in all their power and magic have inspired sonnets, plays, statues, photography, paintings and an endless list of other media in art.

I am no scholar on the subject by any means but I know what I like and I know what experience has taught me.

Also, it has inspired me to invite you to check out Leonard Nimoy’s, The Full Body Project, a beautiful collection of photographs I stumbled upon while watching television. I don’t recall the program that featured him.

His images are respectful, joyful, real and non-exploitive which, when I look at an image of a nude woman, I appreciate.

Viewers aren’t stupid, which is what I would like to tell the producers of porn, magazines like GQ and Maxim and even the producers of porn videos.

Smart people like to look at nude bodies and can observe images and videos critically and spot objectification, exploitation or the feeling that the producers are catering to the basest of humanity.

I like to know that when art is produced that artists are mindful of their subjects and the amount of garbage out there already filling young minds with the notion of what bodies look like and should do in private spaces.

Some people I’m sure would kill me for mentioning GQ and art in the same sentence. No disrespect to the mainstream magazine industry or that publication in particular.

In conclusion, if you’re a discerning person who likes Mr Nimoy, photography or just naked pictures (hey, no judgment here, this is the interwebs after all!) then I am sure you will like his work as much as I do!

What Do You See?

What Do You See?

copyright Laura Aguilar

“Keeping your body healthy is an expression of gratitude to the whole cosmos — the trees, the clouds, everything.”    

Thich Nhat Hanh

We women have had weight  issues shoved down our throats like fingers.

This is why I love Laura Aguilar’s photography. To the brainwashed viewer, perhaps this image looks grotesque or perhaps it’s like looking in a mirror.

Provocative used to mean, inspiring discussion not laying a young blond across a sports car to help a company make money.

I like this picture because it rarely inspires a neutral response.

 Sit with it, meditate on it for a while and search what meaning it holds for you.

I’m not here to tell you anything you don’t already know about the ‘facts’ of weight.

It can lay on your chest like a feeling of personal failure if you’ve battled with it all your life.

Some people don’t want to admit they think its sexy.

Fat is healthy or it can kill, like thin can, really when you think about it.

For me, fat was something people warned me about as a child. I was  called ‘cow’ or ‘moose’ or any other number of things. I’m no larger than a lot of women, bigger than some, smaller than others.

Some of those words I internalized and some I embraced and tried to remember, before I got married, I had a rich and wonderful dating life, social life and no one ever asked me to leave when I undressed in front of them.

My best revenge from my teenage tormentors is that I am living well. I hope you can live well too.

No one is more worthy of your love than you are.