Monkiss after dark: queer erotic fiction

This post is inspired by an aspiring LGBT erotica writer I’ve been conversing with…

Some feminists disagree with my viewpoint that erotica made for women and by women that stars women is still part of the patriarchal paradigm.

I don’t buy that. Just because I was raised and socialised in a male-dominated society, does not mean I can’t twist the male gaze, break it’s neck and manipulate it to my own ends…I enjoy sex on my own terms and the male-dominated society I live in has no business in my bedroom.

Particularly when it comes to reading books by writers of good porn.

This brings me to Pat Califia, now Califia-Rice…

Important and seminal titles to add to your queer erotica library, if you haven’t yet:

Macho Sluts: Erotic Fiction

Doc and Fluff, The dystopian tales of a girl and her biker

Set in Stone: Butch on Butch erotica

This is an excerpt from Califia’s skilled writing hand…

“Butches need my hands,
My mouth, my eyes,
Because I see, I handle, I bestow
The hard-on, the female phallus,
The sweet prick of androgyne
Forever erect at the service of women.

Understand me—
My tricks are butches.
not men, not boys,

Even if they seem like boys
with female parts to you,
I know they are women.
And I am there for the part of them
That needs to be taken out of control—
Not with contempt,
Not as competition,
But as a reassurance, a reminder,
Of the body’s truth
Inside the fantasy,
The body that makes
All fantasies possible.

I am, after all, a lesbian.
I lust after beautiful women,
and Butches are the most beautiful women
In the world.”

It’s literature like that which makes me happy to be who I am and to love who I love.


Homicidal lesbian terrorist?!

Ok so yeah, I love my wife but if this fictional character was to become real, I might have a one-off affair.

Hot Head Paisan…homicial lesbian terrorist

That’s right powers that be, I’ve said the word terrorist on my blog, terror terror terrorist. There. Suck it.

Me, A Name, I Call Myself

“I have this idea that every time we discover that the names we’re being called are somehow keeping us less than free, we need to come up with new names for ourselves, and that the names we give ourselves must no longer reflect a fear of being labeled outsiders, must no longer bind us to a system that would rather see us dead.”    ―      Kate Bornstein,       

Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws

I like to think of myself as somewhat of a renaissance butch. I figure its something like being ok with the possible dissonance between my body and my mind, sometimes.

Sometimes it’s simple and sometimes it gets really complicated.

I don’t know what else to call it. All I know is that Kate Bornstein is the closest thing to perfect I can think of respecting.

I’ve read everything Kate has ever published and own most of everything.

Check her out if you don’t already think she’s the best thing since Ben & Jerry’s caramel hat trick icecream! 😀